tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127032062337435131.post2467901451327886032..comments2017-08-13T11:41:35.162-07:00Comments on MamaBear Log: The First Trimester (the second time)MamaBearhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00939279124082848460noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127032062337435131.post-16392617273473854332012-01-24T03:38:55.542-08:002012-01-24T03:38:55.542-08:00Sarah I love how you finished your comment, you gr...Sarah I love how you finished your comment, you grow another heart. Beautiful! I am worried about how I will cope with the conflicting emotions I will undoubtedly feel when my second is born. I had such hormonal and emotional upheaval in the days and weeks following Bode's birth - I just remember crying and crying on day four being absolutely convinced that Bode deserved better than me and not knowing what to do about it - that I am expecting the worst I guess. At least the second time around we are a little more aware of just how potent those hormones are and that with time and careful monitoring we should pull through ok. And yes, you are correct, almost everyone survives a life with siblings!!MamaBearhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00939279124082848460noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127032062337435131.post-49437260818627674742012-01-22T19:27:14.735-08:002012-01-22T19:27:14.735-08:00It is interesting Vic, I find myself in the same s...It is interesting Vic, I find myself in the same situation. Reading about your feelings in the first trimester I can certainly relate. <br />I don't know about others but for me the week following G's birth was really, really hard mentally for me. I spent most days/nights thinking 'what have I done to E?' I felt terrible, like I was trying to replace her and horrified at the fact that I would no longer spend so much time with my girl. These feelings also stood in the way of really embracing G as well. It took a good week or so for the hormones to settle down and for me to feel 'normal'. Both myself and my husband were monitoring my mental state carefully, I think if it had gone on much longer I would have seen someone. Certainly something to keep in mind as you get closer to welcoming your second anyway :)<br />I still feel a little bit guilty and sad that E no longer has my undivided attention, but honestly she is still the happy little girl I had before - her feelings of abandonment and loneliness have all come from my imagination. Also as I kept reminding myself the first week, almost everyone has survived the arrival of a sibling :-)<br />Lastly, I have a new love for E now; a deeper appreciation of the unique, funny, happy girl she is. It also makes me look forward to discovering who G will be. Your heart doesn't split in two when you have another child; you grow a whole new heart.<br />SarahAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5127032062337435131.post-90345531294005550702012-01-06T10:20:09.932-08:002012-01-06T10:20:09.932-08:00Congratulations on your second pregnancy, myself a...Congratulations on your second pregnancy, myself and partner are considering trying for baby number two this year :)although I am unable to comment with multiple children, I do often wonder as you do, how it is possible to have so much love in your heart...I often feel it will explode with the love for my son!the general feedback I have got from friends with multiple children is that you automatically fall in love with your new child just as much as you love your existing one and adapt as a parent. Best wishes xxThe Busy Bee Mummyhttp://www.thebusybeemummy.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.com